Sometimes through the Chaos, we forget to take time to nurture our relationships with our spouse. This can make your life seems more hectic and out of control. There always seems to be room in our schedules for hanging out with the girls, taking the kids to another event, but never enough time for just one-on-one time with your spouse.
|At times our lives seem like that of a tranquil island in a sea of chaos. The battle is to keep this sea of chaos at bay and not let it wash us away into utter chaos.” ~Sanjeeva Ananthan|
We need to remember that our date nights need to be that tranquil island. Nurture it and it will grow. You will find that your life is less chaotic and stressful.
I can already hear the excuses.. We don’t have time, no money, no interest, don’t want to plan another thing, or lack ideas. Let’s focus on each area by itself.
- TIME: Of course, you don’t have time. It hasn’t been on your schedule. Get creative and carve out time. This could be the same time every week. (ie every Tuesday, Sunday afternoons, etc.) Or you can plan accordingly to your schedule. Weekly date nights would be best, but you can start with monthly and work it into your schedule. Treat date night just like any other appointment you would schedule. Get it on your calendar and stick to it. No rescheduling. You wouldn’t reschedule a dentist appointment that has been booked for months, because you didn’t feel like going would you?
- MONEY: This is probably the number one reason why we don’t do a regular date night. We flashback to when we were dating and all the expensive dinners, roses, and trips. Reality is we now have kids, mortgages, and expenses that prevents us from being all fancy free all the time. Budget one date a month as a splurge date. Go to dinner AND a movie. Other date nights could be a hike, doing a hobby together, hanging out in the backyard, or pretend to be a tourist and explore the sites in your town. This is just to name a few.
- INTEREST and PLANNING: These two go hand in hand. As the major planner in the house, I am not wanting to plan yet another thing, therefore I lose interest. This subject takes some negotiation and finesse. Rotate who plans what. Maybe one week, you are responsible for the babysitter and your spouse plans what you are going to do. Or you can have a do it all system. Take turns planning the entire night. (Babysitter, activities, meal, etc…). Once a month, plan together. Sit down, text or email what you would like to do. This gives you such a synergy and excitement to actually be planning something fun together.
- LACK OF IDEAS: Pretend you are a tourist. Pick up brochures, as you go about your day, look for fun ideas to do that won’t break the bank. Search the web for ideas or even volunteer. What could be more reward than helping a good cause and spending time with the one you love.
Now that we are armed with lots information to nurture our precious relationship, I challenge you to act! And make sure you share your date night ideas and successes. We are on your way to the tranquil island!